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Emotion is a common state especially to humans, every human
irrespective of our profession or calling posses this special gift.
Our internal state of being and involuntary physiological
response to a situation or object is based on our physical state and sensory
system.
Every human is subject to all the same emotional feelings
and reactions experienced by other humans. The ability to get angry,
impatience, sexual attraction, sad are all involuntary to every humans,
although these emotions could be controlled (that’s what makes us humans) we
can’t really determine when or where it happens since they are involuntary.
Emotions will always be there, they never go away, never
doubt their existence since you can’t get rid of them. You can only manage
them.
Managing our emotions simple means our ability to show
emotion when they are positive and helpful and our ability to control them when
they are negative and destructive.
Managing our emotion properly is very important as not
properly managing them could destroy us.
“There are moments when this urge for sexual intercourse comes and I become
so desperate, I could go to bed with just any girl to satisfy my sex appetite.
Usually after the intercourse I despise myself for going to bed with the girl,
a stranger, sometimes a prostitute. People I had no sexual attractions for.
Most of all I knew what I was doing was wrong, often wondered what would happen
if one of this girls get pregnant, of course I am not ready to be a father and
abortion is evil- but I could not stop myself no matter how hard I tried ” –
(Anonymous)
Sexual urge is normal, it is not demonic to have that urge
for intercourse, but using this as an excuse to sleep with just any available
person makes us animals, if you ask the monkeys, dogs why they sleep with just any
available female counterpart, am sure they will give you the same reason you
will give for going to bed with that stranger.
Our emotions could be managed, no matter how bad, or chronic
it is right now, you can subject them and control them. The reputation built
for years can be tarnished in a minute primarily because of our inability to
control our emotions.
“I used to be a secretary in a construction company. My
manager was very friendly, his wife could come around sometimes in the office
and we gossiped a lot. I was just 22 years old and I could guess the wife was
in her late 50’s meaning by boss was not less than 60 years Old. I respected him a
lot. I had never addressed him by his name until the day he confessed he loved
me. Said I wouldn’t lack anything if I agreed to start a relationship with him.
I couldn’t believe it, I was so disappointed. Though he came to apologise when
he realised how disappointed I was, things never remained the same. Eventually
I had to resign” –Mary.
Victims of dented relationship due to unmanaged emotions
never imagined or planned for it. If you think it can’t happen to you, well, I
have seen Men of God (Pastors), celebrities, elders. I have seen them fall
because of uncontrolled emotions, so think twice while making those assumptions.
WHY YOUR EMOTIONS MUST BE CONTROLLED
· 1.They lead to negative addiction: when those urge
keep coming and we keep trying to satisfy them, one could end up masturbating
to get relieved. Continuous practice becomes an addiction.
· 2. Uncontrolled emotions tarnish long standing
reputation.
· 3. They cause less self value/ low self esteem
· 4. Public embarrassment/ harassment.
· 5. Disappointment and loss of trust from loved
ones.
The bottom line is this: Uncontrolled
emotions have devastating effects, sometimes it takes special rehabilitation
centres and spiritual help to get deliverance.
HOW TO MANAGE THEM
Managing your emotions is the ability to show emotion when they are positive and helpful and the ability to curtail emotions when they are negative and destructive.
1.
Admit they exist:- You cannot control what does
not exist. Once you become conscious of the fact that they exist, you have
taken the first step to controlling them.
2.
Avoid Stimulants:- You understand yourself
better. You know the things that arouse you sexually, things that get you
easily upset, try to avoid seeing nude scenes and pornographic sites/ movies.
3.
Avoid lonely places:- You know what happens to
idle minds. Try to be with friends that will help you out.
4.
Seek for help:- Read articles that will help
you. Special counsel centres in churches and other organisations can help.
Visit and discuss with them. It doesn’t cost anything compared to the damage if
not treated.
5.
Believe in yourself:- You are not an animal. You
are responsible, the best. Believe positive things about you and reject every
negative thing like being a dog, fornicator, etc.
Alternatively, I have a proven and very simple way you can
get your emotion under your control. There is no Sin God cannot forgive. You
can truly give your life to him and believe me; you will never go back to that
negative life again because God now dwells in you. God bless you.
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